To be honest, to those writers who don't have years of submitting experience behind them, probably. I remember what being a newer writer felt like and if someone reached out to me about my work, I was more than eager to try to expand on that in hopes that it would get my foot through the door. But while I was eager to please back then, I also have the more recent experience of being on the other side, too.
For a short time in my reading/writing career, I accepted submissions for a local publication. After the first few rejections, I realized pretty quick that I didn't want many people knowing that I was doing the actual rejecting. If I personalized a rejection, I was rewarded with a follow-up letter begging me to take a second look. If I showed an amount of sympathy or kindness, I got weird letters; some writers felt like they could pitch all their story ideas to me without actually writing the story. And still other rejections seemed to provoke anger. I bet I received at least two *eff* yous a month.
For experienced writers, no matter how friendly the editor/publisher, we (well, most of us anyway) have that separation mentality of, "it's business, not personal". Sure, it's still disappointing but we understand what "professional" means. For new writers, that disconnect is not easy at all and I'll tell you why. New writers have not yet undergone the sting of rejection after rejection. They are still under the impression that their work is the end all, be all of the publishing world. They pin all their hopes on one thing instead of continuing to write. They don't yet have the understanding that this is the way the writing world works and it's a very emotional thing to go through.
That's why most people in the biz aren't too chummy. Writers expect more out of them when they are and subsequently "scold" them for it. It isn't really fair to them.
So in my attempt to educate newer writers on the fine art of submitting, here are some tips in etiquette when dealing with editors/publishers/agents:
-When you receive a rejection (and trust me, some time in your writing career, you WILL receive them), resist the urge to respond in haste. Accept it and move on to the next listing. Begging will only make you look like a fool and an *eff you* will only land your name in a shit list.
-Keep writing. There is nothing out there that says you can't write until you've exhausted all the markets for one of your pieces. Write and write and write some more even as you submit other things.
-You are not the best writer in the world. Having an attitude of such toward others (online or otherwise) could work to your detriment.
-Be nice and be humble. You're not only trying to sell your work but also yourself as a writer. It doesn't matter how great your story is, if you're a difficult person to work with and to please, that will also sabotage your career.
-Don't take a rejection personally. Yes, it stings but learning and persistence will win out in the end.